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5 Tips to Improve Communication in Your Relationship

Communication is key in any type of relationship. While you hope to find a partner with similar wants, needs, interests, and hobbies, you won’t find someone who is exactly like you in every way, shape, or form.

One of the best parts of finding a partner is finding someone who can make you better and help you think about things from a different perspective. This means that some conversations you share together won’t always be sunshine and rainbows.

Some conversations will be hard and challenging. But those are the types of conversations that can help build and even grow your existing relationship, especially if you and your partner learn how to communicate in a healthy and effective way.

Here are 5 tips to improve communication in your relationship.

1. Keep Open and Honest Communication

Healthy communication involves communication that is open and honest. Trust is a big component of a healthy relationship, and the same can be said about communication. It’s important that partners are open and honest with one another.

Even if a conversation seems like a hard one to have with your partner, it’s always best to be open and honest with one another. If you dismiss or hide your true thoughts and feelings, it will only lead to pent-up anger and resentment. No matter how well you and your partner know one another, you can’t expect your partner to read your mind. You also don’t want to assume that they know what your wants and needs are.

2. Use “I” Statements

Be mindful of the words you choose to use when you’re speaking with your partner. You’ve always heard about thinking before you speak. The words that you use when communicating with your partner can have an enormous influence on how your partner reacts and responds to them. It can help to use “I” statements to convey your point and lessen the chance of your partner feeling defensive.

When you use “you” statements, for example, “You hurt my feelings,” your partner may feel the need to defend themselves for fear of being blamed or attacked. Instead, try using “I” statements, like “I felt hurt.” “I” statements help your partner see things through your eyes and your perspective.

3. Listen

A lot of people associate communicating with talking to one another. But there are two actions that much be done in order to communicate effectively: speaking and listening. When you and your partner are involved in a conversation, you have to make sure that when one person is speaking, the other person is listening. Listening means active listening, which is giving your partner your full and undivided attention.

4. Don’t Play the Blame Game

You and your partner are in a relationship together. While you won’t agree on everything, you have to work together to find a mutual resolution and compromise with one another. Neither partner should be fighting to win. On the other hand, one partner shouldn’t always feel like they’re losing or having to give up their wants and needs in order for the other person to feel like they’re winning and never compromising on their own wants and needs.

5. Ask For Help

There’s nothing wrong with asking for help from time to time. Seeking additional support for your relationship doesn’t mean that you have problems in your relationship. It shows how much you and your partner care for one another and the relationship you share together.

Working with an outside third party can help to provide a fresh perspective on your relationship. When you’re ready, we’re here to help you and your partner move forward in your relationship again. Reach out today if you’re interested in learning more about how to improve communication in your relationship.

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